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Today, we discuss how have the best relationship with neighbors and also how to enjoy your landscape. How you don’t have to toil in your lawn and garden to keep up with the Joneses and still have a good relationship.
Life with neighbors
How to work with your neighbors, and live as harmoniously as possible
- Living close to neighbors can often be difficult
- Complaints, concerns, change, unknown
- often lead to confusion, conflict, stress
- How to work with your neighbors, and live as harmoniously as possible
- Sometimes, dealing with maintenance violations from neighbors
- Some folks have a view that different = ‘bad’
- Some folks feel they have a say in what you do
- To an extent
- Reality: goal of beauty with less work
- Will look different
- Will get messy before better
- Why do neighbors get concerned
- Property value
- Shade
- Runoff
- Pets
- View
- Weeds
- Difference
- How to interact with concerned neighbors
- Open communication
- Clear, open discussion
- It is not necessary to ask for input
- It is your property
- However, may be helpful if affects neighbor
- Border, fencing, tree shading, etc.
- Notification before work begins
- How to prevent concern
- Create an inviting space
- Welcome neighbors
- Tell a story – you are on the hero’s journey
- Family, work, yard, priorities, goals, dreams
- Enjoy connections beyond the landscape
- Sometimes, things just don’t work out
- Remain cordial
- Try to enjoy your landscape, enjoy life
- Let the negatives go by
- Can be difficult
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I’m Ben Hale your virtual design guide
to help you and your family have a
healthy beautiful landscape with less
work what’s up and welcome to episode 15
of the aesthetic ecosystems podcast we
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let’s get into it today what are we
talking about today we are talking about
life with neighbors
doesn’t that sound beautiful so what I
mean today is is life can be very very
difficult with neighbors sometimes and
other times it can be quite harmonious
and even exciting so how do we ensure to
have a good relationship with our
neighbors if possible what can we do on
our side to to ensure a good
relationship especially when it comes to
our landscape life with neighbors can be
very difficult when it comes to your
landscape especially if you have
something different that you’re trying
to do or something unique that you’re
trying to do especially you know in this
case what we’re talking about here is
saving time with our landscape so we
have some different practices we’re
doing in order to save time on our
landscape but still have a beautiful
landscape and some time that can be
difficult for under other people to
understand so how do we work with our
neighbors and live as harmoniously as
possible is that something that’s even
possible in some circumstances
and what are things we can do at least
to try and minimize issues or concerns
as they come up so let’s get into it
today
I have today’s show broken up into a few
blocks or chunks here first I want to
cover hopefully most of the issues that
you might be substantially dealing with
this is something maybe you’re already
dealing with or you have dealt with in
the past and and also maybe what you
could expect in the future maybe you
have a new property or new neighbors or
things have gone smoothly but if you’re
making changes to your landscape that
could disrupt things so so what are the
things we could potentially expect and
this might sound like you know covering
the negatives and some what it is but
the reason we’re doing this is so we can
also understand how we can prevent these
issues from happening potentially so
after we understand some of the issues
and what we could expect there let’s get
in deeper into the why do neighbors get
concerned and then follow up with ways
we can interact with concerned neighbors
to hopefully build a better relationship
with our neighbors in the long run and
throughout what I can do is share a few
examples that I’ve experienced and and
also just anecdotally what my my parents
also experienced growing up I had
several siblings and we didn’t make it
easy for our neighbors let me put it
that way funny funny aside here actually
without getting too off-topic is is my
parents yard is only there their whole
plot of property is only about a little
over a quarter acre so it’s not too big
but across that quarter acre it’s
entirely surrounded by fence
and my parents didn’t even build a plank
of it so and most of it was built after
we moved in so my parents had their fair
share of neighborly issues with us crazy
kids growing up and and we certainly
didn’t make it easy for our neighbors of
course but but at the same time my
parents also taught me some great things
on just learning how to deal with other
folks in how to hopefully behave in a
manner teach to first of all to teach us
children how to behave properly with
neighbors
and help alleviate some of the issues
that we may have caused but also just
how to interact respectively
respectfully and and hopefully build
good relationships so okay let’s start
then with understanding some of the
issues so as I’ve pointed out living
close to other people to your neighbors
can often lead to difficult situations
so a lot of properties you know they
don’t have a significant amount of space
between houses you know there’s some
where you can literally spit on your
neighbor’s house from your own window
and others where at least you know you
have clear line-of-sight and often
there’s a lot of noise carry over as
well as visual carry over between
properties and that can lead to a lot of
issues just by the nature of our
proximity that we live to each other and
and so it can lead to difficult
situations a lot of times you you’ll
deal with complaints concerns just
dealing with change in general between
you know people changing their
properties or changing their habits on
their properties and also just the
unknown as well what will happen in the
future with your neighbor or it’s also
how your neighbors may feel about you
what will happen when they move or when
will they move or what will they do with
their backyard so those sorts of things
often lead to confusion or conflict or
stress and hopefully though they lead to
open discussion and understanding and
that’s what we’ll work on here so how do
you really work with your neighbors and
live harmoniously as possible you know
sometimes you’re dealing with
maintenance violations from your
neighbors you might be dealing with
complaints from your neighbors or
whether this is to the local city or
Township or it could be your HOA or it
could just be to your other neighbors
you know building tension by complaining
to other neighbors around you creating
gossip and this can all be difficult to
deal with also you know sometimes just
the people we live next to sometimes
they have a view that if you’re doing
something that’s different than the norm
that it equals something bad and
certainly what we’re talking about here
on this show with with saving time
increasing beauty and health in your
landscape all at the same time it does
have a lot of different strategies than
the normal typical postage stamp
landscape lot process and because of
that it can lead to a lot of tension or
unknown and and cause gossip or rumors
if you don’t deal with it properly so we
really have to work on trying to help
our neighbors understand that even
though we’re doing something different
it’s not necessarily bad it might
actually be for the good of the
neighborhood the overall benefit and
also there’s another issue here that we
might potentially be dealing with and
that is some folks feel like they do
have a say in what you do with your
property and unfortunately this can be
the case sometimes if you’re dealing
with a homeowners association an HOA
these are neighborhood boards where
where people do write codes that dictate
what your community can do and these can
often be written after you’ve already
done something and you can then be
required to comply with that so it can
be a difficult situation certainly but
all in all the reality is you know
people don’t always have a say in what
you do even though they think they might
and this can lead to some tension and of
course this is like I said this is to a
certain extent yeah you know if you’re
doing something that does affect your
prop your neighbors property or your
neighborhood then potentially they do
have a say so it’s important to be
conscientious of other people but also
at the same time realize this is your
property and and not their property so
again to touch on the overall goal of
the aesthetic ecosystems brand and and
why you’re here is is we’re looking to
have beauty and health for your family
with less work right and so by changing
your landscape processes to to have more
beauty but also less work and to spend
less time doing
habitual and routine work in your
landscape it requires a transition phase
it will look different than your
neighbors landscape most likely and it
will get messy before it gets better so
you’ll need to do a certain amount of
work to transition your landscape and
yes there are things we can do just with
our landscape now as we’ve talked in
previous episodes too to help transition
without having to overhaul your
landscape right but in the process
overall over time you will transition to
better plants better designs better
gardens that will be healthier and in
the long run will take less work and so
these transitions can be messy sometimes
and and that’s where again you can you
can get to tension so let’s move in then
to understanding why neighbors get
concerned we talked about some of the
issues but that doesn’t really dig down
into the why right so it might be the
symptom but it might not be the real
issue or what causes the symptom right
what’s the trigger for for people why do
they get upset or why do they get
concerned and and why do they feel like
they have to do something about it or
cause a problem about it right instead
why can’t you know a lot of times we’re
thinking well why can’t they just you
know let us do what we want to do and
I’ve certainly had this feeling before
with with our neighbors so it’s it’s
just a reality right everybody has
different expectations or thoughts or
views and when everybody is living in
close proximity it can lead to issues
especially when people think they have
an influence over what you do on your
landscape so so why art what are some of
these triggers that maybe are touched
upon that caused this concern so the
first and in the most common is property
value a lot of people feel that if you
do something that changes your landscape
then it will affect their property value
and the biggest or the most common
example I hear is is well what if
somebody parks a camper in their
driveway or their work truck in their
driveway and there’s a lot of areas that
actually don’t allow you to do something
like this even though it’s your property
it’s you know your trailer or or your
work truck they’re they’re seen as
unsightly and that it could affect their
your neighbors property value and so
it’s actually written into code or to
law that you can’t do stuff like that
well maybe I understand a little bit of
this argument but but when you’re
talking about your landscape if you’re
doing work to actually maintain your
landscape and to make it look
presentable I have a hard time
understanding some of this but the
reality is that this is the concern in
if people feel that you doing something
on your landscape could affect their
home value and of course people get
upset if that’s the way they feel right
and so we’ll get into solutions later
about this but but that’s the the most
common one is people feel that it’s
going to affect their property value and
so they have a need to do something
about it or to get upset about it so
some of the less common ones I’ll just
kind of go through these real quickly is
sometimes if you doing something that
affects the the sun exposure on your
neighbors landscape or the shade on your
neighbor’s landscape or the view on your
neighbors landscape so if you’re cutting
down a tree that increases the the view
to their backyard let’s say and they
have a pool right they want privacy well
of course they might get a little bit
upset about that so how do you deal with
that situation right
it’s your tree or property but then your
neighbor gets upset because it affects
the view so so under at least
understanding why why they might feel
affected can help
so affecting the shade the Sun the view
something that affects the water runoff
and this can be something that you do
have to take your neighbors input on
because it can affect sometimes it can
affect municipal regulations or state
regulations that if you change the
runoff on how it affects your neighbor’s
property it can significantly damage
their property potentially so making
sure we’re we’re understanding that that
side of the issue there sometimes pets
can cause concern for your neighbors
also weeds are a big one right
we’ve had this where we’ve had neighbors
approach us and say just because we
don’t treat our landscape
we’re causing weed problems for them
because the prevailing wind blows their
directions so our weed seeds that we
have might be affecting their property
and that was a cause of concern and
while potentially I understand that
discussion weed seeds are so prevalent
in the landscape that it’s it’s unlikely
that just one specific area might affect
it but but also we were we were actively
doing measures to reduce chemical use on
our landscape and and an eliminate
chemical lens used on our landscape at
the same time dealing with the weeds in
a more holistic manner and of course now
we have much fewer weeds than than
previously and but it’s it’s it leads to
difficult situations potentially and the
last thing I want to point out too is
sometimes neighbor just just get
concerned that you’re different you’re
doing something different or you’re
you’re managing things in a different
way and because of that it can be
perceived as negligence or lack of
caring or that you’re trying to you know
instigate something and that might not
all of that might not be true hopefully
it’s not instead that you’re just
maintaining things differently and
there’s a lack of understanding but but
there is sometimes concerns just that
you’re different so now that we’ve gone
over a few of the the underlying
triggers that can cause some of these
outbursts or issues or stress points
with your neighbors let’s assume now
that you you do have an existing concern
with one of your neighbors or multiple
of your neighbors how do we interact
with our concerned neighbors how do we
try and make the best of the situation
right they’re already upset or they’re
already stressed or they’re already
concerned so what can we do well the
first thing I want to point out here is
for one I have experience with this
we’ve had as we’ve moved into our
current house we came into a pretty
messy house it was it was a disaster
inside and outside
and and we chose to focus on the
interior of the house to make it
liveable that was our goal early on and
and unfortunately because of this we
kind of left the landscape in a status
quo phase for quite a few years as we
tried to one repair our house and make
it livable and – and start raising it we
were raising a family at the time and we
still are right and so that that’s our
priority is our family and so because of
that our landscape does take a backseat
even though I have huge passion and and
desire to to change our landscape for
for one that takes a lot of time to
transition and to work on and – it takes
money and three it takes away from your
family and so we focus on spending time
with our family first and then fill in
the remaining pockets of time with
things we can do to improve our property
and so because of that we have had
neighbors that have approached us and
expressed concerns and and in each
situation we’ve certainly tried I
haven’t always succeeded but what we’ve
tried in and being very cordial and in
upfront and and kind of have an open
dialogue about the situations that are
being discussed and so that’s my first
suggestion is to to try and have clear
and open communication and clear an open
discussion with your neighbors so to
actually have a dialogue to try and
understand what their concern is so they
might be saying you know let’s pretend
you have a dog that’s bothering them
well your dog is just digging holes and
it’s bothering me it could be the
complaint right well what is the the
real issue is it the dog or is the holes
in your yard
it’s not even your neighbor’s yard well
it might turn out that your neighbor
just doesn’t like looking at the dog or
it thinks that your neighbor thinks that
your dog might decrease his property
value because because the the unsightly
holes when your neighbor goes to sell
the house and you know ten years from
now might cause the problem well trying
to dig really trying to understand
and with with honest and curious
discussion as opposed to judgmental or
angry discussion and trying to just have
an open dialogue can sometimes really
help kind of dissolve the issue and I’m
not saying here that I’m a saint or that
I’ve always been successful in in all of
my my neighborly discussions but it’s
something to certainly strive for and it
certainly helps sometimes alleviate a
significant amount of tension that may
be building up with your neighbors so
one example here is I had a neighbor
complaining that I hadn’t cut my grass
soon enough and and the way this
neighbor chose to approach this
situation was to to yell at me while I
was walking with my children down the
street and so instead of cutting my
grass I was taking my children for a
walk on that day and I had planned on on
cutting the grass later that evening but
you know I didn’t want to do it in the
middle of day when I was out with my
children I usually wait until after
they’re in bed to do as much work as
possible and so because of that outburst
of course it made me upset and I waited
until I think I’ve waited a few days
before I cut the grass and that’s not
the best that’s not the best action to
pursue but what I also did is once I
allowed myself to calm down his eye I
went over and I
I brought a I brought two beers with me
in a lawn chair and I walked over to my
neighbor when I knew this neighbor was
outside and and we sat down and we we
had a beer together and and just shared
an open honest discussion and and talked
you know as neighbors should be able to
talk right and and then we also we
approached the the issue that you know
and I shared that you know for me my
family is very important and and
unfortunately for you know sometimes
that that takes a priority over things
like making sure my lawn looks looks
pretty and all the grass plates look
even and and you know we we both I think
we both came away with a better
look on each other after that discussion
so that’s kind of what I’m talking about
here is trying to dissolve the situation
it can be very difficult to to kind of
approach the situation because the
natural response is to want to push back
right we want to push back we want to
share our anger with the situation as
well and it can be very difficult to
kind of try and calm ourselves down and
and placate ourselves before we can have
an open discussion and also to try and
not be condescending in the discussion
to – to sound too preachy or whatever
instead just to actually try and have an
honest open discussion as equals with
your neighbour so that’s something to
strive for certainly and I certainly
recommend it it’s not always the the
most successful path and it’s not always
possible but it’s something to maybe try
and strive for the one thing I want to
point out here too is it’s in most
situations it’s not necessary to ask
your neighbour for input kind of talking
is I’ll get into this and a few in the
future piece of the episode here but but
talking to your neighbor and letting
them know something is very different
than asking their opinion or input
because that can lead to a difficult
situation as well it both in the current
situation and in future situations by
letting your neighbor feel that they
have a say in what you do can lead to a
very difficult situation but I want to
point out too that it may be helpful
especially if it’s a situation where
you’re affecting your neighbor so take
for example if you have a border that a
property line that you share with your
neighbor and you’re considering doing
something along that property line it
may actually be good to at least alert
your neighbor to kind of discuss with
them and potentially ask for input and
you know giving a few options that
you’re okay with that they might be able
to help provide the input or direction
on that might alleviate a lot of tension
in the future if you’re willing to do
that so for example if you’re
considering putting in a fence talking
about what types of fencing you
like and also you know then providing
say you have two or three options that
your family decides would be the best
and you maybe have a favorite but you
also have you know another one or two
options that are okay and maybe going
and poaching your neighbor saying hey
look here we’re planning on putting in a
fence here’s what a few designs that we
were considering here’s when we’re
planning on doing it since it’s sharing
a property line with you do you have any
input on potentially what would look
most appealing or what would be the
least encroaching or what might not
bother you as so much and again this
isn’t necessary but it might prevent a
lot of issues in the future so something
to consider there same with planting a
tree maybe you have a tree that you
really want to put in or you have two or
three different types of trees that you
want to put in and help right along the
property line but one you know drops if
you have an oak tree that you’re
planning and putting it drops acorns
every two to three years versus a
flowering cherry but that it might drop
a bunch of cherry fruits and later in
the year and which one your neighbor
might prefer and based on their size and
what they drop in their color and their
appearance and everything it might be a
helpful thing to do to make them feel
better about some of your work and and
if it’s something again that you’re
you’re willing to kind of compromise on
but in a way that allows them to give
some input but doesn’t let them have too
much say where they’re going to kind of
overstep their bounds okay so the last
piece I want to say here too with
dealing with concerned neighbors is is
trying to notify them before your work
begins so if you have some project
you’re working on to just give them a
heads-up like hey you know we’re going
to be this weekend we’re gonna be doing
a project we do have to rent some
equipment so I know it might be a little
tough but we’re gonna have to start
early in the morning just to beat the
weather or just to get done by the
sunset so I wanted to at least give you
a heads up you know we apologize if
there’s any any disruption to your day
but we’re gonna try and get done as
quickly as possible something like that
you know that just gives them a heads up
so they’re not you know rolling out
of bed in their pajamas here in some
loud noises at 8 a.m. and wondering what
the heck’s going on you know they can at
least understand what’s going on
so the notification and some settings
some expectations can be very helpful in
interacting with your concerned
neighbors so that’s a perfect segue into
other things we can do to actually
prevent concerns so what are things that
we can prevent concerns in the future
with our neighbors and as we plan to
work on projects in our landscape and to
change the way we treat our landscape in
a better healthier way that adds Beauty
and so the first thing is to just let
them know that that’s your goal so if
they understand your long-term goals
they might be willing to understand the
process that you’re taking to get there
more so they they see your vision they
might not feel it happening as quickly
as they’d like but but they at least
understand this is your vision and this
is what your goals are and so they might
be more understanding with allowing you
space to get there without getting upset
about it the next is to create an
inviting space and here I’m not
necessarily talking about physically but
just making sure you’re creating you’re
doing as much on your end to create a
relationship where your neighbors feel
comfortable in having open discussion
with you because usually a lot of issues
if they’re if somebody feels comfortable
to talk about an issue it’s it’s going
to be much less of a concern usually
then if they just feel like they can’t
approach you and they have to deal with
it themselves or they have to just
ignore it
as much as possible because then it just
leads to conflict and stress and and
future concerns so creating an inviting
space for your neighbors to be able to
approach you to have open discussions
about your landscape and about other
things too and so just trying to have as
good a relationship as possible the next
piece is welcoming your neighbors into
your landscape into yard into your home
as as much as you feel comfortable of
course but
the more welcome your neighbors feel
again the more they can approach you the
more you feel like you can approach them
to talk about things you’re doing as
well and so again this guy kind of goes
back just relationship building and this
doesn’t mean you have to be best friends
or anything like that but but to just
make sure that you’re trying to at least
develop a little bit of community with
the people you share a property line
with and and not only for for their sake
but this is really for your sake as well
and for your family’s sake so so at
least that you can have a more pleasant
place to live in and same with your
neighbors the next piece this is this
might sound kind of silly but but this
really can can make a lot of sense is
tell a story
so kind of pitch yourself as the on the
hero’s journey right so maybe you’re not
Frodo Baggins or whatever but but let me
spin this to you know kind of give you
an example for us personally so we have
a high priority on our family right so
our family is very important to us so
our relationship as a family is very
important and making sure our children
develop well and have a good space to to
grow in and experience life as well and
because of that other things take a
backseat priority and that includes our
landscape as well also you know we’re
busy people we have not only our family
priorities but we also have work we have
we have lots of other priorities in life
as well we have goals we have dreams and
and we also have our yard to take care
of right and so you can see how things
fill up very quickly and and with our
goals especially in our landscape if if
we share those and we say okay here’s
our struggle right we we bought this
piece of property it was in horrible
horrible shape take a look at what we’ve
been doing inside the house look at how
much work this all took you know here’s
the changes we’ve been able to make but
of course there’s just the two of us we
have three kids as well so we’re really
busy and
and look what we’ve been able to do
inside and this has been our top focus
so here’s our goals with our landscape
as well look at what we’re we’re
planning to do outside and you and
here’s here’s a few examples of what
we’d like to do hey you know also one of
our top goals is just having health for
our family so we don’t use a lot of we
don’t use chemicals on our landscape
because we know that they can
potentially affect the health of our
kids so here’s some of the things we’re
doing instead to combat things like
weeds and and Mahon pests and certain
issues but you know these worked as well
they’re just working in a different way
and sometimes it takes a little bit more
time to deal with it but remember what
our landscape used to look like and take
a look at what it looks like now you
know it’s improving it’s not a magical
transformation but it is improving and
here’s some of the things we’re doing
you know so this is a great example of
of telling a story that because we’re
we’re going through the struggle and the
trial of making our home a better place
making our yard a better place it leads
to more understanding and connection
because our neighbors might then connect
you know oh yeah you know I remember as
a kid having my parents and how they
took care of us and how it was a
priority or oh yeah I remember when you
know I had young kids and how difficult
it was and and so as you’re you know
kind of telling your own story it helps
build connections and understanding with
the people you’re talking to so they can
identify with you and they can really
you know this isn’t necessarily a sob
story this is a right this is your
heroic journey this is what you’re doing
this is your these are your life plans
this is your life you’re talking about
right and here’s your here’s the
struggle here’s the journey and here’s
how you’re gonna arrive through the
other side as you know a triumphant
champion right with your Excalibur of a
landscape so you know of course I made
that a little bit cheesy but the reality
here is that the more emotional
connections you can make with the other
person the more understanding and
empathy you can build with your
neighbors the more likely they’ll
they’ll actually want to pitch in to
help and
to just accept you as you know your
unique self that you’re building your
landscape through your family and that
sort of thing so so it’s just something
to think about there so the next piece
in trying to learn how to interact with
concerned neighbors is to just simply
trying to enjoy connections beyond your
landscape so maybe your landscape is a
stress point but but what about
everything else right so what about just
how you guys live your lifestyle is
there things you can do together or so
one great example is our neighbors each
year they they organize and host this
this block party on our short cul-de-sac
Street and everybody’s invited everybody
you know has a great little potluck type
a meal that they bring in it’s kind of
an all-day event where it’s just a lot
of little fun activities all the little
kids come together and you know all the
older folks kind of enjoy having the
little kids around and all the little
kids have a bunch of activities that are
planned for them so it’s just a fun
experience to bring everybody together
and so things like that I’m not saying
you have to host a block party unless
you want to but but all of this stuff
coming together really leads to making a
more enjoyable relationship with your
neighbors and that can go a really long
way to building resilience in your
relationships and to be better able to
weather any sort of concerns and
conflicts so those are great examples of
how to prevent concern now the last
piece I want to say with all of this you
know that I just said is sometimes
unfortunately things just don’t work out
and that’s just the reality of living
next to people that you don’t get to
pick who you live next to unless you
really know them before you move in or
you you control who moves in after you
right or after you move in and that’s
just the reality of living in a
neighborhood and so what I want to
stress here is is as much as possible
just try to remain cordial and I have to
say you know this is not an easy thing
sometimes and the the best thing you can
do is just
to be understanding as much as possible
and to just live the you know live your
way as much as you can with without you
know causing stress in your relationship
and while that sometimes it seems very
rewarding it’s not always the best
action to you know act in reciprocity
and and just you know treating other
people with respect even when they net
might not assist nuttin might not
necessarily do the same to you and and
with that you know I want to say to just
try and enjoy your landscape as much as
possible enjoy your life as much as
possible and and try not to let you know
some petty things with your neighbors
bring you down even you know I’ve had
some very stressful situations where my
neighbors have chosen to let you know
some of their chemicals Brown our yard
which which to me hurts very deeply
because I see that as hurting the health
of my family and and so there’s very
stressful situations where I want to
react somewhat aggressively even and and
you know I have to sit myself down and
reflect and and realize that’s not
always the best action and so I want to
just kind of say that too is is just try
and focus on the things that you can
enjoy with your landscape enjoy with
your family and how to buffer against
situations that can cause stress with
your neighbors and also even with
stressed neighbors to buffer situations
that reduce the stress load from your
stress neighbors and you know let the
negative pieces go by as much as you can
this can be really difficult I
understand
wholeheartedly but but just you know try
and focus on that the positive parts of
your landscape and your family life and
and realize you know this is your
property and and maybe if you have to
you know ignore the the few feet of your
boundary just to make things a little
better it might be worth it just for
your own sake right and so with that you
know I wanted I wanted to say if you
guys have any questions about this you
know I can try and help
just through some of these situations if
you have some specific situations you’d
like to have a little input on I
definitely want to hear your your
thoughts or your questions and also if
you have concerns but more importantly
success stories that you’ve had with
your neighbors this might be great
things to share with with other
listeners as well some of your success
stories of how you’ve had a tough
situation maybe how you came through it
or how you worked through it with your
neighbor things like that so if you guys
have anything to share
that’s either a difficult or a success
story or concern you have going over to
aesthetic ecosystems to calm slash
episode 15 I have a link in the show
notes to the the webpage and go in the
comments section there and leave a
comment and and let’s have a great
discussion about this this is you know
very it can be a really stressful topic
and so I want to make sure we have as
much ability to work through this as
possible and if we can provide a good
resource for other people that might
listen to this episode it might be
experiencing issues now or in the future
let’s have this as good of a resource we
can on the episode web page for people
to find help and to understand maybe
other situations that worked out great
so so head on over to aesthetic
ecosystems comm slash episode 15 again
there’s a link in the show notes and and
the other thing too I want to put in the
show notes is is if you have a question
like I said at the beginning of the show
if you have a question go over and go on
over to our podcast homepage at
aesthetic ecosystems comm slash pod P OD
and there you’ll find a button right at
the top of the page to to ask a question
and get featured on the show in the
future or if you just have a question
you know you need a little help on your
landscape shoot me a note so with that
guys thanks for coming by and make sure
you live with passion and make tomorrow
better than today
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